What is intimacy in a relationship?
Intimacy is a closeness and connection between two people in a personal relationship.
Many times intimacy is misunderstood as sex, but there is a difference between the two. You can have sex without intimacy, and you can have sex with intimacy. Sex is an expression of intimacy. It is therefore important to understand the different types of intimacy and how they can help you improve your relationships.
Types of intimacy
They are four types of intimacy: emotional, intellectual, sexual and experiential.
Emotional intimacy: When people feel safe about sharing their feelings and vulnerabilities with those that they trust.
Intellectual intimacy: When people feel comfortable sharing their ideas with others even if they agree to disagree with each other.
Sexual intimacy: When people engage in physical sexual activities.
Experiential intimacy: When people bond together through leisure activities.
Some people struggle with intimacy issues because of past hurts such as abuse, rejection and abandonment. This prohibits the individual from trusting others, and opening up themselves to be vulnerable around them. With such persons, you would need to be patient by taking things slowly and by respecting each other differences.
Since trust is an integral part of building a strong healthy relationship, where possible the individual might need to seek counseling to get help in resolving these issues.
3 Ways to Improve Intimacy in Your Relationship
Spending time alone with your spouse or friend and doing something fun is a sure way to improve your intimacy.
It can be something adventurous:
And Games night
Walk on the beach
Going to a restaurant
These are all simple but effective ways to help you improve intimacy in your relationship and grow together.
“Intimacy is about truth. When you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them and their response is ‘you’re safe with me’, that’s intimacy.” — Taylor Jenkins Reid
“You don’t fall in love with a body, you fall in love with a soul. And once in love with a soul, everything about that body becomes beautiful.” — Anonymous
“Intimacy transcends the physical. It is a feeling of closeness that isn’t about proximity but of belonging. It is a beautiful emotional space in which two become one.” — Steve Maraboli